Darren LeBlanc

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I have this remote. It’s a universal remote that I purchased a few years back to control our VCR. We use the VCR as a tuner so all the channel changing gets done with this long grayish silvery remote. Well, every time we use this remote it breaks. I’m not exaggerating. Literally, every time we decide to change channels we have to use this remote…and every time it breaks. Somehow after every few stations it shorts out and I am forced to pop the back off and pull out one of the batteries. After replacing the battery, it works. This has been going on for quite some time now (over a year), so it should be understandable that I have become quite proficient with pulling the back off and thumb-nailing one of the batteries just a millimeter out of place, then clicking it back in place and hurriedly sliding the thin plastic cover back into its locking position. Remember, I do this every few stations…so probably 3 or 4 times every time I change the channel on the TV. But today, I was taken aback when I realized that I don’t even notice. This ridiculous yet necessary process has become ingrained in my mind. It’s like second nature. It has become totally normal. It’s amazing what you get used to.

Today, I carried my wife from her bed to the couch and back, twice. I dressed her in the morning and before bed. Two trips up stairs to the bathroom and one trip outside to the porch sums up Misty’s itinerary. I setup a lighting umbrella from my photography toolbox to block the sun from Misty so she could sit out there on the porch (she can’t be in the sun and I don’t have any big umbrellas). I weeded a garden for a few minutes. My mother-in-law showed up at my house at 10am to make breakfast for my girls. I didn’t go to work. I held my best friend’s new baby on Misty’s lap so she could see her. My mom picked up Olivia for 2 hours so I could make dinner and sit with Misty. I made coconut shrimp for Misty for dinner, but she got sick and was not able to eat. I emailed and got a response from my neuro-oncologist (there are only 100 of these doctors in the country). At one point, I quickly pulled out a Bible and read the book of psalms when Misty started feeling depressed. I brushed my wife’s teeth but forgot to brush mine till bedtime. I spent a significant amount of time worrying about how to get calories into my 27 yr old wife and was elated when she weighed in at a meager 95.8 lbs.  Probably not your normal day…but it has become totally normal to me. It’s amazing what you get used to.

“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.” – The Apostle Paul, Philippians 4

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  1. Amy June 19th, 2008 7:23 am

    I’m with you Darren, I sure hate those universal remotes. They sure are a pain in the butt. Well it sounds like Misty is gaining some weight, which that sure is a good thing. We prayed for a long time last night and hard and fasted for Misty last night. God will prevail. Misty is going to get better. So who’s baby did you all get to hold? Bet that was cute. I’m so glad there is such a big family to help with Misty and Olivia. It’s great that Olivia has so many family members who love her and love to be with her and take care of her. She is right at that great age to watch how funny they can be. You never know what to think when they come up with something new. Keep the faith, love, and prayers for Misty as everyone is doing.

    Loving God for His help,

    Love, Aunt Amy~

  2. Beth Sauerbrey June 19th, 2008 4:44 pm

    Darren,
    Well at least Misty was up a little bit, I guess that is good. We are praying for you every day. I know God’s hands are on Misty.

  3. afrika barnes June 19th, 2008 5:11 pm

    Darren just want you to know, that you are awsome. Misty is blessed to have you for a husband,i am glade to hear that she has put on some weight,you both are in my prayers. LOVE ALWAYS AFRIKA.

  4. Lavenia Balina June 19th, 2008 7:15 pm

    Praise God Misty is gaining weight! I know it feels like every little ounce is a step upwards, and brings joy to your heart. Keep on keeping on Misty, we are all here rooting for you! We love you Misty!!!!! I love you!!!!
    Love Lavenia

  5. Paul Bennett June 19th, 2008 10:29 pm

    Dear Darren and Misty

    Just had to let you know you are in our prayers and love.

    WE have a home study group every Thursday night and the
    group never fails to remember you both (and Oliva) in our prayers. I wish I understand a little more of the
    “why’s” of life but will just leave it in His hands and
    know He will never leave us without the comfort of His
    presence.

    We love you both.

    Paul and Eleanor

  6. Yvonne Moss June 19th, 2008 11:57 pm

    My eyes filled as I read about your day and Phil 4. Somehow, with joy and sadness all at once. Thank you again for having me in to help for a brief moment. I was honored.

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