13 years
It was 13 years ago today (around 8pm) that I asked Misty to “go out with me”. We were kids, 14 and 15 years old. We had just gone to the homecoming dance a couple nights before and I was ready to make this thing official! For those of you who remember the story of how we met – this is 2 months later, after we had been talking on the phone regularly.
People often ask me how to know if he or she is “the one”. I obviously have no good answer for this. Is there really an answer (note the rhetorical nature of this sentence)? “You just know” or “God will show you” never really does it for me. Anyway, while I never have an answer, I do always tell them about my Misty though. When we met it was different. I liked myself and who I was when I was with her. We were real. And perhaps most important to me, we made each other better. We challenged each other in many areas and helped each other grow. She taught me discernment and gave me an appreciation for the simple things. It was just obvious to me after a few months dating that we just made each other better. I haven’t really thought that through, so don’t go writing a book on how the way to know is if you make each other better….that is just my story. For what it’s worth.
Anyway….13 years. We had a good run. I miss her.
PS….I finally got a new (read: working) scanner so I promise I will scan those scripture memory cards she did and have them available each week…soon!
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That is an awesome story! There are many people who wish they can find the perfect mate muchmore a person that can help bring out their full potentials… You happened to be one of the lucky ones…
You know, it’s terrible that your love was taken away from you too soon, but, what you two experienced, a love that real, is so uncommon in today’s society. What a beautiful gift. God Bless you…
Bless you, Darren and Olivia.
“I liked myself and who I was with her. We were real. [. . .] We made each other better.”
I love that — that’s exactly (read: precisely) how I define love. Just add, “I liked her, who she was and” to the beginning and it’s perfect.
That’s a great story. You only had 13 yrs together, but it sounds like you had so much love and respect for each other and that is a rare and precious gift to have been given.
I bet you miss her. I am sorry that she is gone.
“For what it’s worth.” It’s worth a lot. I agree that maybe how you “knew” isn’t the definitive answer, but it’s a great one. And a real one. The love and devotion you and Misty had makes it a true one. So, yeah. It’s worth a lot. And thank you for sharing it.
Darren in Heaven she waits .. just keep the faith .. Jesus is around the corner .. this world as we know it will soon come to pass and only Glory awaits .. read 90 minutes in Heaven by Don Piper .. it is a good read and it brings hope as to were our loved ones are and according to one who spent time in heaven at the gate they wait for us .. yesterday someone wrote of or about a friend who got mad at God for taking his wife and left the church and the faith .. that was about the saddest thing I read in a long time because his wife is with the Lord and if he dose not repent and turn his life back around he will not have that hope we have of seeing our loved ones again .. you my friend are a good exsample of faith and the hope that Christ is alive and I am 100% sure that Misty from Heaven is smiling at that fact that you have kept her faith alive in you .. rejoice for our time here gets shorter by the days .. we are the genaration of the rapture .. I myself will confess that I have a wife who I love with all my heart .. she has been my wife for almost 30years and we were both backsliders .. I had a personal expirience with Jesus two and a half years ago and He ask me to write for Him things that He puts in my heart .. before this encounter I could not spell or put two words together .. after forty days alone with Jesus I am a different man today .. with tears in my eyes of the thought that as of today my wife still wants nothing to do with God or my faith in Jesus Christ .. it hurts me to think that if our savior came today my wife.. lover and best friend would not share in the Glory that awaits us .. soon I am about to post my journey on my blog .. part of my expirience is already there and as soon as I started this posting my wife has become even more rebellious about my relationship with the Lord .. but I do understand that we are first to love the Lord our God and He will take care or the rest .. so even though this may not make sense to alot of people who read your blog .. you my friend today have more Hope of spending eternity with Misty then I do with my beloved wife and this I say with a frog in my throat and a pain in my heart that most will never know who have a wife who with them serve the Lord .. sorry to vent .. pray for me and my family .. God bless my brother .. Tbone out
It sounds like in your 13 years together, you guys had more love than some have in a lifetime.
Thanks for sharing, it is such a blessing to me and so many others that you are continueing to do daily blogs. Ofcourse I thank Jesus for enabling you to not give up, as so many others would do, after losing there dear loved ones, they would just figure whats the point, but not you my dear friend–you are a true pure and honest soul!!! Love ya bunches, Valerie
no words to express.
just light.
thank you.
You just “knew”, pretty much sums it up. God has a way of showing us things that just feel right. The fact that she made you a better person is the purpose of our spouse. God created Eve to complete Adam. So I guess you “know”, when you feel complete. I know that feeling, Christine is my perfect compliment and has been for quite some time now, I don’t know that I would cope so well being without her. With that in mind I will continue to pray for you and your family.
Love you man,
Matt
who would ever think a silly thing called a “blog” could touch so many people??? Im so sorry you have to miss your Misty and that Olivia has to miss her mommy but I am constantly amazed by a man of God that I have never met who continues to strive for a Heavenly Father who loves him so much. I agree with another writer…I also think we are in the days of the rapture and you will be with Misty sooner rather than later :)
Right now you have a beautiful, precious daughter that God gave you on purpose knowing full well that you would be raising her alone one day….God must have ENORMOUS faith in you Darren!!!! I am so impressed with you and can NOT wait to see what God has in store for you!!! Im literally on pins and needles :)
That’s so special, just as Misty IS. (Was) She is always in everyones heart. That story is truly from the heart and when God put you 2 together that was one of the best things in the world. Give Olivia hugs and kisses, and always thinking of you Darren.
Sweet. God bless you and Olivia both!